Ive got t I really dont have a problem saying no my biggest problems come from dlrp pin trading night pins and just sometimes thats good for a laughhe same problem with mnssp
I think that works both ways too though. I collect the PTN pins so I've seen some trade requests offering them up and sometimes what people want for them is good for a laugh too. They are LE 400 pins and yet some people treat them like they are made of gold the moment they are released. I have been fortunate enough to find a couple of people that I work well with but sometimes I find that people want to value their PTN pins at market value but whatever you have to offer at cost. If someone offers me two PTN pins for something that would cost me $70 to buy....why would I do that? If that is the case I might as well just buy the two PTN pins I want and come out to the same place a lot easier. The last PTN pin was 10.90 Euros so that is, what, $15 USD? About the same as a regular Disneystore.com pin. So, if someone wants a new Disneystore.com pin in exchange for their new PTN pin, that seems fair to me. Market values will do what they will after that. But if someone wants two new Disneystore.com pins for their one new PTN pin, not so much. I'll just buy what I want if that is the case.
I understand that certain pins will appreciate more than others over time and when that happens the whole acquisition cost thing starts to fall apart. But aside from some of the earlier hard to find ones, the average market value of most PTN pins is $30-$40 depending on the character. So, when I trade for them I will trade a market value of $30-$40 worth of my pins and it may or may not have cost me $15 to get them.
Now, have I sent out lopsided requests? Of course! Editing the trade requests can be a royal pain and sometimes I just don't do it. Or, sometimes I'm just offering whatever I can just to get the person to respond to me. I may not have anything on their wants list, but I have good pins and they might see something they like if they just take a look.
When all is said and done, this is how I see it:
1) You can't take what the TA set up literally! It doesn't always come up with the best matches so you have got to be willing to work with the other person to reach an agreement.
2) However you value pins, you need to treat both parties the same. Valuing one party's pins at market value and the other party's pins at acquisition cost most likely will not work. And saying that you value on LE only and ask for their $50 market value LE 250 for your $10 market value LE 250 isn't typically going to work either...
3) Consider the other party's source. If what you are asking for is a newly released pin that you know the person probably paid the same amount you did to get the pin, is it really appropriate to ask for more? The flipside works too....maybe the pins they got went on sale so they can get them cheaper and it is ok to ask for two....it all depends on the situation.
4) Be a participant in the negotiation. It is not fair to sit back and tell someone to look at your wants and make an offer and then when they do and you don't like it just say no. Trading is a two-way street and both parties need to participate. If you don't like it, give a counter offer. And don't always make the other person offer first, that isn't fair either. Nobody like having to make the first offer and it is even worse when the other person's wants list is 10 pages long and they offer no guidance as to what they want.
5) If you just don't see a way for it to work then it is ok to say no. Just don't waste people's time. Don't make someone spend their time putting an offer together just to see what they are willing to put up and then say no with no further input.