Pintervention

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  1. pinbum

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    My friends and family think I need a pintervention.Does any one else have this problem I do not know what to do.Please help.:facepalm:
     
  2. Tokaji

    Tokaji Pins and Needles

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    Wait, are you serious?

    I mean, I suppose it really comes down to your choices and situation. If you're spending money like an addict and aren't able to pay your bills, then maybe a pintervention would be good. Or at least help in crafting a solid pin budget you can stick to. But If you're solid financially, then you can spend your money on what you want, and collecting pins is a fine way to spend money and time. Everyone has their thing, and if pins is yours, good on ya.
     
  3. watzshakinbacon

    watzshakinbacon B for Belle or B for bacon?

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    Yes, it's difficult to detect tone online, so I also can't tell if this is serious or not.

    In any case, I totally agree with Tokaji. Seeing how you joined in 2013, I'm sure you've known for quite a while that pins are an expensive hobby. In the end, pins are just pieces of metal, so make sure to take care of yourself first :]
     
  4. pinbum

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    They want me to sell half of my pins off but i am having a hard time picking which ones.I have 5000 to 6000 in my collection.
     
  5. watzshakinbacon

    watzshakinbacon B for Belle or B for bacon?

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    Oh boy, that’s a lot of pins! I suppose you will have to decide which ones mean more/less to you. Good luck


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  6. Tokaji

    Tokaji Pins and Needles

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    Yeah. I mean, think about it this way: selling off pins means more money for pins? Unless your family thinks you need it for something else?
     
  7. Purplemandms

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    I've been facing an issue in trying to get rid of my hoarding/materialistic tendencies. I'm the kind of person who sees value and utility in just about everything, so it's very hard for me to get rid of things instead of amassing them! But having to move around a lot for school has helped me to realize that quality is much more important than quantity for me, including for pins. I know it can seem like a silly exercise, but try carrying them around. Up/down stairs, on your back to/from work. Translating something like an emotional weight into a physical one can be really effective. Or another thing to do is to just put them away. If you don't think about them or use them for a month, for three months, or even for six months, chances are you can live without them. I find it's a great way to weed out what my favorite things are. Not everything works for everyone, but I can certainly sympathize, and hope that at least that helps.


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  8. Sami

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    This question is some what vague with very little explanation as to why you would need a "pintervantion" though I agree with Tokaji, if it has truly turned into an addiction/hoarding situation then maybe you do need a intervention. I personally dont have this issue because i sucked my family into my pinning ways. I think there are a few questions you need to ask yourself to see if there is a problem with what you're doing or maybe your friends and family don't understand your hobby/lifestyle...

    Is this an avid hobby or a lifestyle?
    Pinning can really turn into a lifestyle rather than just a hobby, which there is nothing wrong with that other than people don't always agree/understand your lifestyle choices.

    Are you hoarding or collecting?
    Are you pins being displayed or just boxed and bagged up?
    Are they properly packed away and out of site when not in use, or are they just all over the place with no organization at all?
    Can you walk through the space where you store your pins if you keep them in one room?
    This can be a fine line sometimes depending on the storage space you have where you live. But if you're just leaving them around every time you buy new ones and leaving them around your room/house then you may have organizational issues, everyone organizes differently so you have to find what works for you... not what people tell you to do, I have ways of organizing that seem crazy to other people but it works for me.

    Are you buying pins instead of food, rent and things you need to live?
    If you are putting inanamit objects before your own livelihood then you may need to reassess your priorities, living and taking care of your own well being should come first.

    Have you become obsessive?
    If you're becoming increasingly upset when you don't get the pins you want and it's causing psychological and emotional changes in your mood and behavior then maybe it's time to take a step back and find some self composure.

    Have you become a hermit?
    If you're just sitting in your house and buying pins and only communicating through the internet with no real human interaction, this can be a problem because you're loosing your social skills which usually is noticed first with friends and family. If you were a hermit by nature, it's always good to get out of your comfort zones and breath in some fresh air (not the air in your front and back yard)

    Are you only talking/thinking about pins?

    Sometimes it's good to try and keep the pin-chat to a minimum when you're around people who have no interest in pins or Disney. Sometimes I forget when talking to people that they have no idea what I'm talking about or the abbreviations I'm using and so on, so I try to keep my pin hobby out of conversations unless it comes up or I'm talking with another pin collector.

    I'm sure there are more things that can be added to this short list but it's a good start if you think that you may have a problem.

    I would say the best to do is to talk to your friends and family about why they feel this way, sometimes it's something that can easily be fixed but communication is generally the key to many situations. Even if you all agree to disagree, at least it won't cause any more tensions between your relationships. People don't have to agree with you and you don't have to agree with them, as long as you find a way to respect each other's differences you can always find a compromise. Hope this helps a bit.

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  9. Disneychildwithin

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    Sami, stop talking about me!


     
  10. Sami

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    LMAO!!!!! [​IMG]

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  11. watzshakinbacon

    watzshakinbacon B for Belle or B for bacon?

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  12. Disneychildwithin

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    Sounds good...except instead of the meet up can we text or email? Maybe facetime...
     
  13. Sami

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    I think we can manage a giant Skype Conference for everyone!! XD

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  14. AvatarAng1

    AvatarAng1 DPF Court Jester

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    Yes to all

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  15. Sami

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    Haha, I think most of us can check at least two of those off.
    [​IMG]

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  16. Disneychildwithin

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    Cute! So true too...

     
  17. xdattax

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    Well, the question becomes why. Why do they want you to sell the pins? Do you want to sell the pins? Is there a pressing financial need to sell the pins? Are the pins spilling out all over the place?

    Until we know what wxactly the issue is, it’s hard to make a judgement call. And even then, not knowing you personally will color our thoughts.

    We all joke around about being enablers here, but we are. I think, though, many of us can remove ourselves from that position if we seriously needed to help a fellow member here.

    If you’re willing to give us more detail, you might get some more tailored advice.
     
  18. bookhugger

    bookhugger I love books!

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    I agree that more details are needed
     
  19. pinbum

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    Pins are controlling my thoughts and actions.They are becoming more than little scraps of metal.I spend crazy amounts of $$$$$$ on them and then regret it.
     
  20. Piglet

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    It will definitely not be easy if you want things to change. But one thing I learned, and this is not only about pins, is that when you feel you have no control over what you spend is to give yourself a certain budget per month. You could give yourself a monthly, or quarterly if that's easier, pin budget and be very firm about not crossing that line. It makes decisions actually quite easy: do I want this pin enough to spend X amount of dollars from my pin budget on it? Do I even have X amount of dollars left in my pin budget to purchase this? Etc. Setting a limit actually takes away a lot of the decisions that you have to make, since the budget will decide for you. You do of course have to stick to the limit and make no excuses.

    As for your current collection of pins, I would try and lay all 6000 pins out in front of you. And then go over them one by one, making piles with what you certainly want to keep, don't want to keep & have to think about. It will be hard in the beginning but there should definitely be pins you like more than others. Also going through them all at once could give you a sense of how many you have, and might help with realising which pins you don't necessarily want to keep. And you could put some of the budget you gain from selling them towards your new pin budget, or you could use some of the pins as traders so you can obtain new pins without actually needing to buy them.

    I do realise this is all quite easily typed down of course, but it might not be easy to do.. I guess it also boils down to whether you think it is a problem and whether you want to change the situation.

    Good luck!
     
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  21. unibear

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    The one thing I've noticed about Disney pins (being a Stitch collector) is that there are a whole lot of pins that "look the same, or close". So, one way to thin the collection is to choose only 1 or 2 of the pins that "look the same" to keep. Disney recycles a lot of pin art, and that might help. Good luck!
     
  22. starry_solo

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    OK, if that's the case, then you definitely need a pin intervention and you may want to go to counseling to address this. It could potentially be considered an addiction.
     
  23. Sami

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    Piglets advice is very good to try and start the process of letting some of these pins go, and like Piglet said it is not going to be easy and it will take some time and much effort on your part.

    I agree though with Starry_solo, the pins may not be your initial problem and therapy may be a good start to find out why you're having compulsion problems and possible separation anxiety.

    It seems from the small amount of information (This is only my opinion) that you may be compulsive and are lacking the self control to stop what you're doing, but you don't want to be separated from them either.
    Addictions whether it's pins, food, drugs, money, work and so on usually are brought on by something other than just an over indulgence of something, many times it can be something in your subconscious that is bothering you and the addiction is taking it's place to make yourself feel better. The reality is that you don't feel better because the problem was masked, and the real issue was never actually addressed.

    I really suggest that you consult it in Psychologist, and not a general therapist, sometimes talking about the problems really helps lift the emotional weight from yourself, and a professional will be able to help you overcome this issue in a healthy way. If your Pin collection as truly shifted from a want to a need you should really stop and think about why that happened. At what point from when you started till now did something change in your habit of collecting and why is pins now your only focus in life?

    I agree with Piglet, lay all the pins out and take a good long look at them, do they mean anything to you or when you gaze over them are you only filled with the regret of the money and time you spent for more emptiness? To me it seems like the pins are filling a hole inside you that can't be filled by objects... (again this is a personal opinion and has no weight other than an opinion)

    But if you want to talk outside of the open forum you can always send a PM, I'm sure many people including myself, are willing to listen if you need an ear or someone to just talk to.

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  24. xdattax

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    Yes. You're going to need to seek professional help, especially since you recognize there is an issue, which is a positive in this situation.

    If we can help you, let us know. ::hug::
     
  25. akbecker246

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    I have also found myself spending too much on pins. Due to this I have narrowed my pin collection down to the pins I really want (and if I am still over budget, I narrow my collection yet again with a new rule). The pins that are really 'little works of art' in my personal opinion (my opinion and not someone else's...). To give you an idea of what I mean... some of my rules:
    1) I avoid words/numbers on pins.
    2) I avoid moving parts pin.
    3) For my 3 character collections (Mickey, Cheshire and Maleficent) I collect the characters alone (ie, Mickey Mouse by himself... no Minnie or Pluto with Mickey)...
    4) I do not pay outrageous secondary market prices for pins (ie, ebay, or significantly increased prices through other sources.) (I will pay reasonable time and trouble prices... its the outrageous prices I avoid...)
    5) For my event traders: I have two 2 inch zippered binders, 1 large pin purse and 1 small pin purse which contain my traders. I try to keep my traders to what will fit in these 2 binders and 2 purses.

    I do every once in awhile break my rules for a pin I love but, for the most part my rules (and sticking to them) helps me focus on what I want to collect and not get carried away by hype or the excitement of the moment. I am able to 'walk away'.
     

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