Does the tone of the transaction affect your enjoyment of the pin?
ladyroselie
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I don't think you did anything wrong on your part, maybe it let you consider communicating first but it isn't like you were scamming that person back. What they did was extreme but should have been given anyway then letting it take place how it did. I have seen how someone's tone does come back to haunt them later on; While misfortunes may happen, they could've prevented it from happening if they had communicated what was going on rather then letting it play-out and receiving negative feedback and drama all around(including up to banning)...
I haven't had that negative experience, so I feel lucky. I think though it wouldn't affect me that much especially if the transaction was with a "stranger" and as long as the pin came in as expected (quality-wise). My very non-Disney partner went to WDW with me a few years ago and needed a distraction. I gave him the task of finding me the macaron hidden mickey pins. He ended up getting all of them for me, and I will cherish those pins forever because 1) I love that he did that with me and 2) I love macarons. That's a cherished memory. For the tons of other pins, I don't remember who people are at all (some exceptions on this forum), but for FB/IG, definitely don't remember at all. And yet, if there was a bad taste, then I probably wouldn't buy from that person again (unless a pin grail or something for a great price). Hmm, I just realized I did a 180.
So far, I've been extremely fortunate in pin trading and have very few negative experiences - and none that were directly linked to any one pin that I feel bad about. But I definitely get what you're talking about.
I went through a bad breakup a few years ago - and for an embarrassingly long time, I couldn't stop thinking about it. Every day brought waves of renewed anger. One of the most therapeutic things I did was going through all my possessions and donating everything that reminded me of that person... including gifts, notes, tapes we watched together, etc. When I wasn't surrounded by all that "stuff," I found it a lot easier to move on.
If something in your space reminds you of a bad experience each time you look at it, or makes you feel anything but joy inside, it has a sort of power. Luckily, you have the power to kick it out of your life - and hopefully into someone else's life where it can do good instead!
For what it's worth, it sounds like that seller had issues that had NOTHING to do with you, and you shouldn't feel bad in the least. But if that doll WAS making you feel bad or uncomfortable regardless, I think you made the right decision. I hope all the dolls that come into your collection from here on out carry nothing but good vibes. <3
We have only traded at the parks and no online yet (maybe soon because I have some that I would like to trade). Cast member trading is always enjoyable for my 4 and 5 year old. We had one trading moment with a non-cast member that seemed like it was going to go a little sour, but it quickly turned around. I still think the lady that was trying to convince my 5 year old to take a crappy pin (but my daughter wasn't falling for it and stood her ground) wasn't happy when she walked away, but at least it didn't go as I feared.
I think to a degree for me it definitely can sour my feeling on a particular acquisition. I know when I first really started getting into pin trading I bought a rare LE Sleeping Beauty pin for my girlfriend at the time. A few years later we broke up and I hated that pin. Despite us both being huge Disney fans I later found out she thought my hobby was silly and didn’t even like the pin. I traded it away at the parks a few years later for practically nothing. I definitely think that our collectibles can have negative feelings attached to them based on different situations so I can definitely understand your feeling about a new collectible being tainted by a seller with a poor attitude.
Ironically I traded that pin with a different girlfriend present who later became my wife. She immediately became hooked on pin trading and now has a bigger collection than I do.
I get what you’re saying though about having a bad experience and no longer caring about the item you bought. You’re definitely not the only one.
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