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The real Izze, please read.

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The real Izze, please read.

Izze

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Hello my name is Izze, many of you have never talked to me, never met me, never seen me, and have only even heard of me for a mere couple of days. Tonight I am in tears because everywhere I go on here attempting to make friends I am shunned and kicked out like I an unwanted. I can many rumors that have been made slandering my name. But I just want to tell my story, the truth. When I was new here my first day I was asked why I had so many rare pins and was only a newbie. When I was six years old my dad died of brain cancer I was very close to him and the little girl to would dance hand in hand with him in front of the crackling fire place or hold his hand during scary scenes of a movie. After he died my mom was in ruins and resorted to alchohol abuse and various narcotics. When I was 9 she re married a man who hit me, I still remember some nights his beat red face staring down at me as I pretended to have fallen asleep. I was in foster care in a group home until I was 12. When one day my mom came to get me. I hated her. She was everything that seemed wrong in my eyes but they told me she was sober and had been in rehab and my step dad was gone too. I remember seeing her that day, her wavy blond hear gently prancing in the wind glimmering with cleanliness and shocking rarity. In her hand she held a small object a glittery little princess pin. I had never had or touched anything so beautiful. From the time I was 12 to the time I went to college it became our thing, collecting pins and sorting them into boxes. A year ago my mom died and I was left with over one thousand pins. Just recently I hav started to plow through them and reserve her favorites only, like ones with sentimental value. That is why I have all my traders.

To address a second and very hurtful rumor: that I am a scammer. I was new here with the stupid bear and merida pin and someone on here messaged me asking if I'd trade. I had traded a pin two days before with someone else only to get very fake pins. I was in a horrible mood because an hour earlier my dog had to be put down due to kidney failiure. The person was VERY pushy and I had a short temper. I was told by a friend (no member on here) they were worth an astronomical amount of money I didn't know better and told that amount thinking it was reasonable, I had NOOOOOO idea how much these go for. I was responded with hostility and being called a scammer. I truly didn't even no better on top of that I got threats and blackmailing notices. I was treated like the black plague on here for not knowing better. And all that was going through my mind is "how can all these nasty people participate in the one thing that brought my mom and I joy". This people who were passive aggressive, gossipy, petty, self centered, obsessed. I chose to move beyond and ignore it, why? Because I have found that drama and meanness brings pain, a pain that jabs people deep into parts of these that should be left untouched a pain that guts from the inside out.

However everything blew up tonight when another innocent person became a victim of this pain. Many of you have already heard of Becca's auction thread. I wanted her pin because I GAVE MINE AWAY for free to a foster child who loves Disney and pins with no money and I wanted a replacement. I was accused of overbidding. To me these pins don't have a value. Brave to me is symbol of the deepest feat of humanity something so precious that few I'll ever truly obtain it. I don't care the value of what I offered they have little to no true value to me. I was accused of being co horts with Becca by a very peevish member. I have never met Becca we have a mutual friend but that is it. I am stunned you all would jump on her like this. She sold one of her brave pins for only 50$ to a member who really wanted it and makes tons of graphics for members on here free. I can handle being tortured through your words but doing that to another innocent person on my account is too far.

Anyway, some of you will now post more messages slandering me or pointing out my flaws. Great! If that's what makes you fell good about yourself or makes you feel like your a hero go for it but I'm done. I have no interest in people trying to tear me down because everyone is a make up of their values and I will never give myself away for other to write my story.
 
Ok, I have the brave pin you really want. I will trade it for your four crystal pins that you bidded on... However, you have to mail them first and when I recieve them I'll send you the pin. It's a normal occurrence for newbies here in order to gain the groups trust... You do that and boom! Your story is believed and you are cleared!
 
This is very sad to hear. I cannot believe this forum has caused so many people emotional trauma. Over the past week, I have probably seen 5 posts about how this forum has made people cry. It sucks to see that some people take this so seriously that they would go out of their way to ruin someone else's pin trading.

All I can say is that you have been very nice in the conversations we have had over the past few days, and I would never think of you as a "scammer" as some have called you. Everyone has their own reasons for trading, and everyone has their own way of trading. No one should ever judge why someone might pick one persons offer over another. Trade how you want, and screw the haters.
 
Am so sorry that you have had this kind of experience here on the forum. I myself haven't seen any of the other posts you talk about expect for the very first one you posted, I believe my girlfriend had messages you about a pin in your traders. Som of the members are very aggressive when it comes to getting a pin that they want but that's no excuse. I honestly think people have forgot that pin trading/collecting is a hobby and should be fun. I've had my fair share of going head to head with some members here. It broke the spirit for me and I didn't want to pin trade or have anything to do with it ever again. But I came across other collects and they lifted my spirits and I was back to collecting. Don't let anybody get you down, espically people that do not know you. When life gives you lemons, paint that sucker gold and out it on a chain.

Another thing I don't understand from members here, just because somebody is "new" to pin collecting and has inherited a massive collection of rare pins. You guys automatically think they have fakes, come on!! Take the time to know the person before your mouth opens. Again am sorry you went through this and I hope you don't leave.
 
I just want to say not everything someone says over the internet is true. So please in turn you guys are also accusing others of causing hurt and attacking them in return. Some questionable things have gone on with these two members. I am not going to go into it as it really is a matter of the moderators and admins to try to figure out the truth. It's one thing to have sympathy but by you attacking other members in turn is doing what you think they are doing to Izze in which my opinion is not right.
 

Did I ever say she was a "scammer"? No. All I said was:

"I think that is a great way to settle this. We want to believe the best in people but I think we want to see some proof."

As in I want to believe in her story but with everything going on its hard to just take it all in. We are wanting to believe her and if she wants the Brave pin and was offering all of those pins why not trade? A mod is a 3rd party person to take in the trades.

So please don't take what I say out of context.
 
I'm really beginning to see a very ugly pattern develop here, for the new people, and it has just simply gotten to the point where I've begun to feel sorry for any new people who become very active here.

How many threads have popped up calling out new people? How many times have I heard negative whispers concerning new people? All too often, as of late, and it's very sad to think that there are supposed to be mature people here, but it seems to have broken down into little groups of spiteful and hurtful people that urge members of their cliques to help slam and shame these poor new people into submission or to think that they should quit altogether.

There does seem to be some genuinely nice people here, as well as some really nasty ones. I think everyone should think twice about how you would like to be treated and extend others that same courtesy, please.
 

Well said!
 

I third that. I've been trading since dizpins was the place to be and I still feel like I'm on the outside of the clique.
 

Amen!!
 
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