Reference Etiquette Question

[bwschultz]

I am still a relative Newbie when it comes to trading and I do not have a lot of references on Dizpins mainly due to the fact that several of the people whom I have traded with failed to leave me a reference. I try to leave a reference for all if I am happy with the trade.

Is it acceptable to email them back and ask them to leave a reference or is that being too pushy?

Let me know what you think.

I know this doesn't happen to anyone else, right?

Thanks

 

[talesoftobv]

I don't think it's pushy at all! Leaving references is a very useful tool with online trading, it should be done. I know I have forgotten to do it, and I find it very helpful when someone reminds me.

 

[tiggermickey]

I wait a few days and if no ref,,I email them"I hope our trade was OK"as I see no ref was left,I left you one becuz the trade was great,if ours was ,could please return the ref
and they usually do then...Judy

 

[lucan444]

No you are not pushy at all, if there is not a stated reason for lack of reference<ie you shipped late, package was damaged due to poor packaging, basically your boo boo> it is reasonable to at least inquire . If for some reason the tradee was not happy it gives them a chance to voice their cocerns, if they just forgot its a gentle nudge.
Either way, you can not force it, it is thier opinion. Like a tip at a dining facility it is based on your percieved level of service. If you are happy with it, you recommend it, if you werent , for whatever reason you dont!!
but to ask is not out side of the bonds of etiquette, at least in my oPINion, it just shows a trader who wants to make sure the trade was satisfactory for all!!
my two shillings worth

 

[rhysd2]

Not in the least bit pushy. if there werent happy then I'd rather know and if they were happy then its just courteous to leave a reference

 

[miladymajor]

It is not pushy at all to ask! As a pin trading newbie, we count on those references so that others will not be hesitant to trade with us. I always leave a positive reference if I am satisfied with the trade. If feedback has not been left for me within a few days, I will email the person I traded with to thank them again for the trade, remind them I left positive feedback and would they mind leaving positive feedback for me? This works for me 99% of the time.

 

[showmethepins]

You absolutely should ask. I know I have forgotten multiple times to leave a reference for a good trade and I appreciate the reminders when I get them. The reference system only has value if people take the time to populate it. So for all of you out there that haven't gotten a reference from me yet, send me a PM.

 

[huertajv]

I tend to forget or just get busy. I try to always leave feedback, but we all live in a crazy world, so when I get reminders, I like it.

Go ahead and pm them. If one of them is me, you better hurry before I forget. lololol

Vicki

 

[bwschultz]

Thanks everyone I will be sending quite a few emails. Fortunately, no one who has responded to this thread will be getting a reference reminder from me.

 

[hopemax]

I guess I've been lucky in that everyone I've traded with, has left me one. When I receive their pin, I usually say. "I received your pin(s), and left you a reference and I would appreciate the same when my pin arrives." But most of the time, they've gotten their pin already and have replied to me with a similar message.

 

[carolynhill]

I don't mind being reminded to leave a reference, although I don't remember forgetting to leave one.

Like Hopemax, when I receive a pin (when I was still receiving pins, that is), I post a reference right away, then send an email to the person saying, "The pin arrived in the mail today, safe and sound, and I've left a reference for you on DizPins." I don't ask the person to leave one for me in exchange, though.

 

[Mr. Nightmare]

It's good to see that etiquette is still around.