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Taking a break/stepping away for a bit - could use some prayers + pixie dust

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Taking a break/stepping away for a bit - could use some prayers + pixie dust

echoharmony

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As some of you may know, it's been a rough year for me so far. January 18th was the 3 year anniversary of my longtime best friend Amy's passing. February I started having agonizing pain in my hip and had to go out on medical leave; I've been on disability since. April my grandma died. May 30th was my best friend Amy's would-be 30th birthday. She had an illness called Cystic Fibrosis and it had been her goal to live to 30. She never made it. A lot of bad stuff happened with my birth mother, her sister, and her living situation(long story). My god brother and his girlfriend were in a horrible head-on collision last week; she was killed instantly, he was in the hospital for a few days. All the while I've been going to a specialist for my hip, doing physical therapy, trying to deal with the pain. My depression and anxiety have also been really bad because of everything I've been dealing with. All the financial hardship, the disability payments keep stopping and I have to keep sending in more paperwork, I don't have enough money to pay my bills, etc. I'm not getting the normal every day social interaction that I would get at work, I'm constantly in pain, I'm not sleeping well, etc.

I saw my specialist today and was told I have an extreme vitamin D deficiency, so I have to take a huge dose of it once a week. Okay, no big deal. But I was also diagnosed with Fibro Myalgia.

On top of everything else, are pins. Collecting and trading for pins has always been something that I've found enjoyment in. I used to make trades constantly. People did it because it was FUN. Now? I've run into so many greedy people who turn their noses up at my pins, or want to take every single one of my 'best' pins for ONE of their pins, try to take advantage of me because they know how badly I want something, etc. I even organized a trade with someone for the Brave marquee, was in talks with someone in Japan for quite some time trying to get a pin for this person, and then the day I exchange addresses with the person in Japan, the person I was going to get the marquee from backs out, saying something about she wants a better Ariel pin for it. So now I'm stuck trading, eating the shipping costs, and am extremely disappointed. And don't even get me started on the Pixar exclusive pins!

I just....with everything in my real life going so terribly, I need something, just one thing, to go right in my life. And all I seem to concentrate on these boards are the pins that I feel like I'll never get. The ones that seem to haunt me, that I don't have a chance at. And with the huge mountain of straws on this camel's back right now, I just can't handle any more upset, or disappointment, or devastation, or people shoving their greed, their ebay quotes, their 'gimme gimme gimme' attitudes in my face. Pin trading used to be fun, but people seem in it just for the profit these days, everyone wants to always get the better end of the deal, to 'trade up'. This is NOT geared towards the people I've traded with, and I thank every one of you for being sweet and fair and so easy to work with!

I'm done here for a while. I might still put up auctions, or place bids on 'fun auctions', things I don't care about, and I will still be around to answer PMs and fulfill trades I'm already agreed to. But for now, I give up trying to get the things I actually really want. I'm sorry if this seems overly dramatic, but I'm having a hard time dealing with anything and everything in life right now and pins are just adding to it. I could use some major prayers and pixie dust right now. But please, I ask, no negativity here. As thumper said, If you aint got nothin' nice to say, don't say nothin' at all. Or something. Yeah. Please don't be mean to me. Thanks.
 
Hi Echo
My friend..I wish I was there to give you a big hug..I know the heartache and pain you must be going through
I had my share too,not as extreme as yours..but it was there..I am so sorry for your friend/ and god brother and girlfriend
thats sad..I will send pixie dust from Indiana to you..keep your chin up and take as long as long as you need to heal
if you need someone to talk to we are here,you have my # on my bus card if you wanna chat in person well on the ph that is

Judy
 
I am sorry to hear your troubles. I had planned to go to a trading day in Orlando on saturday and was planning to try to look for pins to trade with you. I am still going to do it. I have not been on the forum long but I have followed some of your posts and had always wanted to trade with you because you were always nice and positive towards others especially new traders. Even though we have never conversed I will miss seeing your posts. I wish you health and happiness and will keep you in my prayers. I do hope that one day we will be able to trade.
 
Echo honey! I'm so sorry to hear about all this. I knew you were having troubles with your health but I had no idea about everything else.

All I can say is, don't let the turkeys get you down. Remember that the greedy ones being jerks aren't a reflection of anything to do with you or your worth. They may make you feel judged, but they're wrong. It sounds like a lot of people here are getting frustrated with those types. I think that means that the people here on DPF will keep making it better.

I understand if you need to take a breather, but I still hope to trade with you in the future. It's been fun. :)
 
Thanks, everyone. I'm still around, I'm too addicted to this place and pins to leave entirely, but I'm going to try and avoid things/places/threads that upset/disappoint/depress me. Everything right now sets off my depression and I"m sorry I've been so mopey and negative lately. It's hard not to be when you're in physical pain, have no money to feed your hobby, and the hobby that's always been fun has become frustrating :( but I apologize to anyone I might have offended or annoyed.

I'm sitting here with my window open, it's actually drizzling outside and I love listening to it. I love the rain. But yes, I'm still answering PMs, so if anyone wants to set up trades, especially for any pins in my signature, please feel free to contact me! I'm just trying not to take an active role in trying to get the things I really want because lately all that's done is lead to disappointment and upset.

thanks for your support, everyone!
 
I am so sorry to hear about all of this, I really feel for you. You deserve for something spectacular to happen, after all you've been through. And I really hope something great does happen, soon. If you ever need someone to talk to, my inbox is open. Loads and load of prayers and pixie dust to you!
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Dear Echo,

We don't know each other too well, but I wanted to comment anyway and let you know that I am sorry to hear about all the **** life has been throwing at you over the past few years. I totally understand if you feel the need to take a break from trading, but I do hope you come back soon. We'll miss you until you do.

Love, Sara a.k.a. SoraPandora

P.S. Here's some more pixie dust, because it sounds like you can use as much luck and magic as you can get right now:

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I'm so sorry to hear all this has happened to you. :( I hope things get better for you, if you ever want to talk just send a PM whenever you like.
 
Thanks for the continued support, everyone. Like I said, I'm not leaving entirely, just stepping away from the things here that cause me to be upset. I'm still around though, and my inbox is always open! ♥
 
i hope things get better for you, im going through some tough times too. i hope you the best. thank you for that one time you picked a pin for me. i hope the extra cash helped you out on other necessary things. and of course some pixe dust! my prayers for u too!
 
I may not know you well but I will be praying for you every night before I go to bed and I will send you tons of pixies your way. From your posts and everything I think you are such a wonderful, sweet person and you seem very strong as a person as well and I look up to you. Lots of hugs your way and you are in my thoughts.
 
Echo I hope things get better for you lovey and I really wish I could help you out! You're such a sweet person! If you ever wanna chat feel free to pm me, I can but offer a virtual hug but I can listen too! Hope things turn around for you soon!
 
I know we don't know each other well, but that won't stop me from keeping you in my prayers and thoughts :) you are always so sweet and helpful from what I've observed, so I hope things start to turn around and get better for you. We're all here for you! :) I've gone through a fairly dark time in my life, and I've gotten through it for the most part, so I know to an extent how you feel. If you ever need to vent to someone or just break down or just feel like chatting, please know that you can always talk to me :)

~Katie
 
Echo, I know exactly what you mean/feel like. January of this year, my mother was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and she is in constant pain. I have become her carer and everything you are saying is what my mother feels like. It is a really nasty illness. My mother's was triggered off by a fall.

She also has low Vit. D deficiency - she has to have jabs - it started at 1 every two weeks, then every month but now that it is under control, it is every 6 months.

I'm really sorry to hear about your friend & god brother's gf - so tragic. I hope your god brother gets better soon.

I am also sad to hear that you have been taken advantage of through pin trading. There are greedy traders. I get them all the time and I know it is just not fair. I had an unbelievable one the other day, they wanted 4 rare Japan pins of mine for 1 pin!!!!! It is ridiculous.

I hope you feel better soon and things pick up for you. There are some really good books about FM around that can help you understand the condition more. I have been getting lots out of the library for my mom. It is a wicked illness.

Take care x
 
I'm so sorry to hear this, and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayes <3
I know how you feel with the Fibromyalgia I have the same....
When you want to talk I will be always there for you :)
Big hug :hug:
 
You're a great person and is always there to lend a helping hand. I'm so sorry for what you are going through but everything always gets better, keep your chin up and find a hobby that will take your mind out of negativity and keep you happy and try not to focus on pins so much, I've done it and it helps with the frustrations, I'm guessing balance is a good thing, don't focus all you resources here :)... Now a days it has become a dog eat dog pin trading world and the majority of people are like that... You just have to treat people with the same courtesy they treat you and keep the balance! See you around and I'm here if you need anything!
 
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